This weekend I watched two of the corniest Christmas movies ever: 'An Unlikely Angel' and '12 Dates of Christmas'. I inherited my love of sappy Christmas movies from my mom, and I am unapologetic about this guilty pleasure. My brain turns off at night. Plus, they're fun! And they contain hidden genius.
In ‘An Unlikely Angel’ Dolly Parton’s rough side of the tracks lounge singer character gets killed off in the first 5 minutes. She heads to the pearly gates, where St. Peter (Roddy McDowell) greets her with the unwelcome news that she isn’t eligible for wings. Yet. He’s sending her back to earth with a Christmas mission—she needs to repair a broken family by midnight on Christmas Eve. The family Dolly has to fix has an angry workaholic dad and two sad kids—mom died two years ago and they are all emotionally stuck. Dolly, dressed and made up exactly as if she’s about to hit the stage, is their new nanny. Yeah, sit with that for a minute. Anyway, she takes to the task with gusto because what’s the alternative? Spolier: with the help of a lot of little miracles, she indeed heals the family by Christmas Eve. Dolly gets two numbers in, FYI…in one she’s ‘surprise’ introduced to the stage but happens to be wearing a gold lamé mini-dress because that’s how nannies dress in ‘An Unlikely Angel’. Miraculous happenings play a heavy role here…Roddy McDowell shows up every other scene to help her out: he’s a neighbor walking his dogs down her street, he’s the hotel concierge, he’s Santa at the department store. Nudged in the right direction, Dolly figures the path out herself, growing into a soul worthy of wings, and it is mostly her handiwork that creates the reunited and it feels so good happy ending.
In my strength training class on Saturday my teacher Ally shared that she also has a thing for Hallmark Christmas films. My ears perked up when she mentioned ‘12 Dates of Christmas’, the title is perfect. So I dug in. In this one Amy Smart is a neurotic NYC ad exec (why was that the sexy profession for so long?) who is obsessed with her ex and also supremely selfish and all about forcing her life into what she knows it should be, a key pillar of which is getting back a guy who dumped her. Her poor dad has remarried after losing his wife (Amy’s mom) and Amy is not a fan of new stepmom. “I miss mom,” she plaintively complains to her dad. Um, she’s dead, and also the new stepmom is really nice. And is setting Amy up with an amazing dream date who happens to be free for drinks on Christmas Eve.
This movie is kind of a Groundhog Day thing. Amy is stuck in a seemingly endless loop of living Christmas Eve repeatedly over while she works out key life lessons. She’s a slow learner, so this takes a while. Eventually, she starts to get a clue that life is better when you open up to possibility and when you give more than you get, and when you let others live the lives they want to live. Awwww. So much popcorn.
Here’s the thing though. These movies both are about suspension of reality and allowing the lessons of miracles to help the characters see bigger than they can see with their self-oriented earthbound viewpoints.
And though I fast forwarded through scenes in both of them (it had to take Amy 12 dates to learn her lessons because of the song, so they really stretched that one out) I love the idea that when we are the only architects of our lives we create based on our limited thinking. When we open up to divine assistance, life gets a lot more wonderful. The writers of these films may have been creating entertainment based on the idea that people want to suspend their beliefs and enjoy being carried along for the ride, but the movies portray the way that the universe really works. We think we’re in charge and we try to prove our genius all the time, but what we often prove is more our egoic stubbornness.
Recently I was listening to a lovely guided meditation by Caroline Myss and I heard her say the words, “Are you afraid of change? Why?” and as she said the words in my mind I thought, “I’m not afraid of change” then a moment later the realization settled on me—I am afraid of change, or more accurately of not being in control. Caroline’s next words in that meditation are, “I step out of your way, Heaven. Move into my life. Change what you need to change. Because I am here for service. I fear the changes, but I trust them.”
Are you afraid? If so, ask Heaven to come in. Ask for a Christmas miracle. We toil and struggle in our mental habits resisting change because it feels different and our minds crave the familiar, But as an enlightened soul you can look around you and see that everywhere people are creating what they expect based on what they’ve experienced or been trained to pursue. If what your tribe is creating is calling you alive and you’re on fire for life—keep going! But if what you are doing isn’t your deep soul’s purpose or you are struggling under the weight of what could be, feeling "if only I could unlock the next level of life", then you are being called to ask for more.
The universe loves you so much that it will deliver to you what you expect, even if that is misery. Expect glory, and vanquish the resistance that keeps you from realizing that awareness.
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